Don’t leave your parents alone, as it is the most frightening feeling for a person and a large number of parents are experiencing the same situation after their children leave them, some move abroad for better employment opportunities, and some send their old parents to shelter homes due to one reason or the other.
There are hundreds, if not thousands, of children who after completing their studies go abroad for their better future, which is alright, but they forget that the parents they are leaving behind are also their responsibility. I know a number of parents who are living alone in unimaginable circumstances only because their children have left them.
Whatever may be the circumstances, we should understand that our parents sacrificed their lives for us and in their old age, it is our responsibility to take care of them, but we forget their sacrifices and remain busy in our own lives.
“I’m a big believer that the expectation must be that everyone will one day be a caregiver ‑ whether it be for your ageing parents, a neighbour or a loved one.” (Alexis Abramson, PhD, lifestyle gerontologist and author of The Caregiver’s Survival Handbook: Caring For Your Ageing Parents Without Losing Yourself)
It is a fact that due to physical weaknesses, disabilities and changes in mental spheres, elderly people cannot cope with a rapidly growing world and fall prey to depression, which is a disease that can make a person feel worthless, hopeless and disinterested in life.
It causes several problems among the elderly people, including sleep disorders, changes in eating habits, digestive problems and persistent pain in body, and that is why it is our fundamental duty to take care of our parents.
We should not only prepare ourselves for this task, but we should also keep imparting awareness of such issues among other people.
The main issue is that children tend to leave their parents for the need to raise their children in a better way, but we forget that in the same way they have to look after their parents.
“Caring for our seniors is perhaps the greatest responsibility we have. Those who walked before us have given so much and made possible the life we all enjoy.” (US Senator John Hoeven)
We should realise that growing older is taking place on biological, psychological and social levels. Attention should be paid to all these levels when our parents reach the old age. No doubt in some cases, difficult economic and social conditions play their part in leaving elderly parents behind, but there are cases in which there are no such issues of economic or even social conditions, but the only thing was that the children do not want to take the responsibility of their elderly parents.
Every relation has its own significance, but in making new relations, we should not forget the old ones, especially our parents, because they are the ones who have sacrificed everything for making us what we are today.
“To care for those who once cared for us is one of the highest honours.” (Tia Walker, The Inspired Caregiver: Finding Joy While Caring For Those You Love)
Being ignorant of our responsibilities is becoming a routine for most of us, which is in no way a good behaviour, as it is impacting several lives. We should realise our responsibilities and take them seriously before we started regretting them.
One such responsibility is the care of our parents, which many of us are not doing properly, to say the least. The world has become so materialistic that we forget the importance of relations, and in coping with the external world, we at some time, lose relations, especially our parents.
“I’ve learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you’ll miss them when they’re gone from your life.” (Maya Angelou, an American poet, singer, memoirist, and civil rights activist)